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By: Barbara (Xerraire)

Barbara (Xerraire) — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 18:31:08 +0000

Abuse is definitely a strong word.
In some cases, there is neglect, all agree it’s hard to balance it all.

I think the ideal situation is a loving parent home with the children full time.
It’s perfect, it’s ideal.

We all know though that this world we live in is far from perfect.
So sometimes the circumstances mean both need to work.

However, I think if all were right with God, there could be a way for at least one to be with the child.

We need to do with less, stop buying ‘things’ just to have ‘things’.

Lower our desires of ‘stuff’ we ‘think’ we need.

That just might change everything.

Having family and friends helping too. Didn’t it used to be that way?

My son and his wife live on next to nothing yet she stays home with the baby.
It is her position that is where she belongs. I know they depend on God for everything and have the faith in Him to do so.

By: hazelblackberry

hazelblackberry — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 23:38:56 +0000

I’m glad to see that many of these comments talk about parents rather than just mum (unlike so much of the child care debate). One of my friends went back to work 7 weeks after giving birth – this was because she was the breadwinner, able to earn much, much more money than her husband – and he stayed at home full-time with the kids, who six or so years on seem like pretty well-adjusted youngsters to me.

I still feel that so much of the discussion about child care revolves around the concept of a good mother, to the detriment of the role a father can play, and to the detriment of talking about parents.

I’d also like to point out that Mem Fox’s comments seem purely anecdotal to me. The only people I know of who put children into child care early did it because they absolutely had to – and hadn’t planned on having a child at that stage (let’s not open that can of worms). My step-sister works in a child care centre with lots of involved parents and happy children. How much does my anecdotal evidence count for? I’m yet to be convinced that we have an imminent social crisis on our hands.

By: roo

roo — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 11:27:02 +0000

many forms of abuse under law….i wonder if anyone has had a hard look at it. But there is no way i would let me bub be in child care at that age, heck, im not every very fond of the idea of child care at any age, but that is a personal thing and shouldnt be legislated.

i agree we will have some incredibly disconnected and disfunctional kids, but that wont be anything new. on one hand they might be better socialy, but terrible at the family scene when they grow up.

By: Iris

Iris — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 05:13:02 +0000

Most childcare-centres over here take children from 2 or mostly even 3 years old. I also found one that takes babies from 3 month.
I dunno… when I “had to go” to childcare at 3 I was not happy! All those strangers frightened me.
On the other hand being able to tell my mother this didn´t help, I was sent anyhow.

But six weeks?! Abuse might be a word too hard, but it sure isn´t right! Must be confusing for a baby to not hear/smell/see/feel it´s mother. Maybe this very first bonding is a very important step in life – not learned who knows how they take this subject in the future?