One of the first things Jill said in our review of the book is that it is certainly open to people using the principles to manipulate others. If we use the book to understand how to get what we want or to have our partner please us, then we’ve missed the point but you’re right, there will be some who will use it like that.

I think that love will always be mysterious and a challenge but if I can better understand my wife in order to demonstrate my love for her, I think that’s a good thing.

I certainly see where you’re coming from and I too dislike it whenever someone claims to have the formula that will cure all our ills. We are far too complex to be reduced to that kind of understanding.

You’ve given us a great caution but I think that if read with your caution in mind, the book can be of help for some.

That was how I ended my blog post about this book back in May of last year. Now let say that Chapman is most likely sincere in his desire to help people, but reducing love to a list is just not helpful.

Love is supposed to be mysterious and a challenge. I stick with my life because I love her, not because she can please me.